Tag Archives: grief

Recommended Reading

Check out my reviews of recent books on death, dying, illness, and grief. So many excellent books!

Posted in Other Stuff, Reading | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

A Video Conversation with the Incomparable Lesley Everest

Lesley Everest, a cherished old friend who is a minister, transformation companion, and doula –in addition to being a miraculous cancer survivor, amazing mom, and extraordinary person– has honoured me with this interview, the first on her brand new site, … Continue reading

Posted in Other Stuff | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

On Flowers

The best part about being ill is the flowers. I received so many flowers from well-wishers after my surgery last winter and then for months afterwards, until the spring offered its own bounty outside the window. The flowers truly brightened … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , | 12 Comments

Ask Me Anything Repost: Oliver’s Answers

Here are Oliver’s answers to the questions a class of college students in a course called Death and Dying had for him about his mom being near death. I was so proud of his courage, generosity, and thoughtfulness in writing … Continue reading

Posted in Ask Me Anything! | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Ask Me Anything #10: Staying Positive

This is the last question from the college class, and it’s an important one. How do you stay positive? Don’t you ever think this is unfair, or ask why me? I do believe that our attitudes are, to a considerable … Continue reading

Posted in Ask Me Anything! | Tagged , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Ask Me Anything #1! Initial Reactions

Kelly McKinney, a teacher at John Abbott College in Montreal, recently asked me if I would participate in her Humanities course called Views on Death and Dying. We went with an “ask me anything” format, so the students sent me … Continue reading

Posted in Ask Me Anything! | Tagged , , , | 2 Comments

October Update

I haven’t written here in a while, mostly because we had a long bout of fantastically sunny, summery weather, making it impossible to sit in front of my laptop, and then I had a wonderful week in the Baltic visiting … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 14 Comments

On Grief, the Shadow of Joy

I noticed this morning that I had labeled the front of my journal Summer 2016. I don’t write very regularly, so the notebook still isn’t filled, even at the end of Summer 2017. Curious about what I was thinking last … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , , | 6 Comments

Guest Post by Oliver

My son Oliver and I recently accepted an invitation to answer some “ask me anything” questions from a class of college students in a course called Death and Dying. Here are Oliver’s answers to the questions they had for him … Continue reading

Posted in Ask Me Anything! | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

Book Recommendation

The Bright Hour is a radiant book. Nina Riggs brings her fine sensibility and craft as a poet to her heart-wrenching yet funny memoir about facing death as a young wife and the mother of two little boys. Structuring her book … Continue reading

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

On Giving Gifts

I have written here before about receiving gifts, and of the sweetness of gratitude. I do believe that gratitude is one of the cornerstones of happiness. But lately I’ve been thinking even more of giving gifts, of what I want … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 21 Comments

On More Time

(Please note this post was written last August. Sometimes I write things and don’t get around to publishing them. Some of the information here is related to that time only.) Time is a strange thing, and our relationship with it is … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , | 20 Comments

On Sadness

My friend Miriam asked me to write about sadness, so I’ll try. I’ve mentioned being sad a couple of times, but not much, considering the circumstances. I guess it hadn’t seemed worth remarking on, since it’s so obvious and ubiquitous. … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , , , | 3 Comments

On a new normal

This is a strange space to inhabit. I’m not feeling that sick at the moment, and in my dreams I am still healthy. So I wake most mornings feeling perfectly fine. The emotional intensity of the first weeks after my … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

On Paths

Something about paths is so poignant to me. Naturally occurring paths, those that happen just because others have taken that way before: they are invitations. A dirt path worn across a vacant lot or cutting a corner, through the woods … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , , , | 4 Comments

On Creativity

I have always loved art, both looking at it and making it. Since becoming ill (actually since the US election, which might very well be what made me sick), my need for visual art has intensified. If I had more … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

On Control

It seems every other obituary these days starts with “lost her battle with cancer” or some similar phrasing. So much of our culture’s response to cancer is framed in terms of battle. The message is that if you are one … Continue reading

Posted in On Dying and Living | Tagged , , , , | 2 Comments