Do you speak up for yourself more?
I actually do speak up for myself a little more than I used to. Since I don’t have much time, I’m less tolerant of people wasting that time with superficial nonsense, insincerity, or bureaucratic details. I’d rather talk about things that are important to others and myself, even though those might not necessarily be deep subjects. Strangely, I’m also more patient in some situations. My goal is to learn to listen much better, fully.
I also had to learn to express my needs much more than I used to because being sick means I need help. I get really annoyed when people offer help I don’t need or incessantly ask if I need anything (even though these are kind offers), but I couldn’t convince my family to stop this without promising that I would ask for help when I needed it. Learning to ask for help was a really hard lesson for me, since I was always an independent, proud, and very energetic person who almost never needed help before. Illness is great at teaching humility!